from stealthmunchkin

[ewt]

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all. Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.
Don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape. See comments for why I've crossed this out.
Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. It's that important.

Note:
This goes for any gendered rape, male on female or female on male or FTM on MTF or non gendered to dual gendered and so on and so forth

Comments

[neonchameleon.livejournal.com]

IIRC, the figures are:
40% of domestic violence is against men.
Women are five times as likely to report domestic violence as men are.
(Source: British crime survey via Metro)

Not one penny of government money is spent on any specific form of male protection from domestic violence. (Again, Metro)

Oh, and the British Crime Survey is as authoritative as anything in the field. (And somewhat better than the official crime figures which were buggered twice round the turn of the millennium).

[neonchameleon.livejournal.com]

(IIRC, the Metro claimed that no money was spent protecting men- but there are the police...)

[ewtikins.livejournal.com]

I don't know that it's actually inappropriate for there to be no specific money spent on protecting men from domestic violence as opposed to women if there are indeed higher rates of domestic violence against women than against men. I might argue that the amount of money spent trying to protect women is out of proportion with the amount of crime perpetrated against them. I don't know, though.

How much of the fact that women are slightly more likely to be victims of domestic violence is related to the fact that in general women are, on average, shorter in stature and therefore easier to pick on, rather than anything else?

[neonchameleon.livejournal.com]

I don't know that it's actually inappropriate for there to be no specific money spent on protecting men from domestic violence as opposed to women if there are indeed higher rates of domestic violence against women than against men.

When the ratio is only 3:2, I am amazed by that suggestion. All targetted money goes to the majority?

How much of the fact that women are slightly more likely to be victims of domestic violence is related to the fact that in general women are, on average, shorter in stature and therefore easier to pick on, rather than anything else?

Most of it, I suspect. I have no statistics on this one, however.

[ewtikins.livejournal.com]

When the ratio is only 3:2, I am amazed by that suggestion. All targetted money goes to the majority?

Given that untargetted money goes toward protecting both sexes, yes. I did say that it isn't necessarily in good proportions. What amount of money is spent on preventing violence in general, and how much more is spent attempting to protect women specifically? Half as much again? More? Less?

This of course assumes that a problem can be solved by throwing money at it, which is not necessarily the case.

[neonchameleon.livejournal.com]

All money targetted on domestic violence goes to protecting women, I believe.

Rates of reporting and conviction of domestic violence against men are massively lower than those against women.

Therefore, if one group should be proportionately favoured by funding, it should be the men.

[neonchameleon.livejournal.com]

Also, generally targetted services are known to disproportionately benefit majority uptake groups as those responsible for the service are more experienced at dealing with the majority users.

Uptake is not in line with incidence, therefore women are being disproportionately benefited by the standard funding without taking targetted funding into account.

And balancing targetted services, even assuming equal usage and uptake, need proportionately greater funding for minority groups because of geographic monopolies and greater proportional overheads.

In short, even if the uptake of the non-targetted services was equal, men should be given slightly greater proportional funding for targetted services as they are the minority group. And all other factors are clearly not equal here.