I didn't know how to answer the question about nice guys, because this sentence (ending with "finish last") is often uttered by a particular type of guy who thinks he's nice, but is actually trying to live up to a stereotype in hopes of getting female attention, and he's bitter when they sense his inauthenticity and don't buy it.
In general, I think positive thinking is imperative, but repressing your feelings and calling it optimism is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Sadly, I know this from painful experience. When I think of optimism, I am thinking of the choice to react to events in a proactive, non-victim way while still allowing yourself room to acknowledge any negative feelings.
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Date: 2007-10-29 12:56 pm (UTC)In general, I think positive thinking is imperative, but repressing your feelings and calling it optimism is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Sadly, I know this from painful experience. When I think of optimism, I am thinking of the choice to react to events in a proactive, non-victim way while still allowing yourself room to acknowledge any negative feelings.
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Date: 2007-10-29 03:17 pm (UTC)It's assholes (lie, cheat, abusive), good guys (tough, but fair), and losers (who think they're "nice guys").